April 4, 2017

y si no tengo tanta prisa....


The theme tonight is very clear; Valeria Sabater has written it in La Mente es Maravillosa; Is very clear, when you open your eyes after a damage, it is very difficult to go back, it is very complicated; Opening the eyes causes you to begin to be another person, the person after the damage, after the experience lived; The person who has hurt in one way or another and who has realized that life was not what he thought. Read and then analyze.

“Valeria Sabater 3, April 2017

There are wounds that open our skin and open our eyes. When that happens, there is no other option but to take the broken pieces of our lost happiness to recompose our own dignity. A self-esteem needed to move forward with a tall head and a firm stare, without looking back, without begging impossible realities …

This act of discovery or awareness of a truth does not always come after a painful act that strikes us without waiting for it and without anesthesia. Sometimes it happens in a sibylline way, after many few that in the end make “a lot”, like a discreet but persistent rumor, that in the end convinces us of something that we suspected almost from the beginning.

“The truth slims and does not break, and always walks on lies like oil on water”
-Miguel de Cervantes-

Within a more spiritual conception, it is common to speak of what is known as the “third eye.” It is certainly an interesting and curious concept that in its roots has much to do with this same idea. For Buddhism and Hinduism in this eye is located our consciousness and that intuition that favors a proper personal awakening. A new state of attention in which we can perceive certain things that at other times escape us.

Because that is perhaps the biggest problem we have people: we look but we do not see. Sometimes we get carried away by our routines until we become dissatisfied. It is also usual that we let ourselves be caught up in certain relationships in which we give everything, without perceiving that what we get in return is the poison of unhappiness.

To open the eyes to these realities is not a simple awakening to the conscience, it is an act of personal responsibility.

We look but we do not see: it is time to open our eyes

It was Aristotle himself who once said that it is our senses who simply capture the image of the outside world as a whole. In this sense, only when there is a clear will can we see the truth, because that is when the mind makes an authentic contact with what surrounds it and with its revealing details.

Getting it is not easy. Because it takes intentionality, intuition, critical sense and above all courage to see real situations and circumstances and not as we would like them to be. To say that many of us walk through our reality with a blindfold may sound rather bleak, but when people come in search of a therapist in order to find the source of their anxiety, their tiredness, their moodiness and Of that vital apathy that takes away the spirit and the hope, the professional makes several discoveries.

One of them is the iron resistance to seeing things as they really are. “My partner loves me, yes, sometimes he treats me badly, but then, when we fix things, he becomes that wonderful person who loves me so much.” “Yes, in the end I had to leave the relationship with that girl because my parents did not like it, but they have always known what was best for me …”

People often refuse to see things as they are for many different reasons. For fear of seeing ourselves and discovering ourselves, for fear of having to face a truth, for fear of loneliness, not knowing how to react … These psychological resistances are mental obstacles: fences that act as defense mechanisms that drive away happiness.

We can not forget that happiness is, above all, an act of responsibility. Because when you finally get it, when we open our eyes, there is no turning back: it is time to act.

How to learn to open your eyes

A simple, practical and useful way of learning to open our eyes to the truth is to give our mind a rest. We know that something like this may be paradoxical, but it is not a question of silencing it, of turning it off or of removing the keys to the motor of our mental processes. It is simply, to slow down, to somehow ignite that “third eye” of which Buddhists speak.

“The essential is always invisible to the eyes”
– The Little Prince (Antoine de Saint-Exupéry)
We show you the steps to follow.

Stay in a relaxed place, free of stimuli that catch the attention of your most physical senses (sounds, smell, physical sensations of cold, overwhelm or environmental pressure …).
When we try to quiet the mind, it is common that instantaneously, annoying automatic thoughts burst, intrusive and useless: things we have done, we have said, things that have happened to us, that others have told us …
Each time one of these intrusive thoughts reaches you, you visualize a stone that is thrown into a pond. Imagine how it hits the water surface and then disappear.
As we manage to control and set aside automatic and unhelpful thoughts, little by little will come those where the fears, annoyances, and even those images that are recorded in our subconscious and which we have not paid attention (a false Smile, a contemptuous look …).
It is time to reflect on those feelings and images to ask why they make us feel bad. The important thing in this phase is to avoid justifications and quick judgments (my partner has told me that derogatory word because surely, I have provoked it). We should see things as they are, even if they seem crude to us, even though we find them to be fearfully painful.
For this exercise to bring results and allow us to open our eyes, we must practice it daily. The truth will sooner or later come to us to remove the bandage from our heart and those locks where we were trapped and dissatisfied.

After this, we will no longer be the same and will only have an option, an exit and a personal obligation: to look forward to our own freedom and happiness. Being left behind is strictly forbidden. ”

It is incredible how the truth many times we know it, but we do not want to see it; Other times that same truth gradually appears and settles in our lives to, in a certain moment, make us realize what really happens and what we really have to change.

The phrase “we see but we do not see” is true, and for this reason we believe that we have had an intuition with something; In fact it is in sight, we have looked at it but we have not paid much attention to it because of the need to follow the routine we have, and it is very real that opening our eyes is an act of personal responsibility, because the only ones responsible for our happiness are ourselves. That happens in many cases with fibromyalgia sufferers, who have difficulty opening their eyes for fear of facing us, alone and ill, so, on many occasions, we prefer not to see some realities and to go ahead with the unhappiness we feel.

We should not be afraid to open our eyes, we must be responsible and do it to be happy and achieve the goals that we are putting. Each time we achieve a goal, our self-esteem will increase, so we must be aware and look for goals that we can achieve not to frustrate. As our self-esteem increases, we will reach ever-increasing goals and we will be happier every day. This is a bit the spirit of our Network of Help and Support, reach goals to be able to help and support people with fibromyalgia, family and friends, but starting from the origin and walking slowly, because we must have firm feet to find suitable ways and allow our eyes to open to the unpleasant things that we are encountering and to be able to identify them and get them out of our way.

I think this is a good article for anyone, but above all for us, fibromyalgics that we have lived with so much weight in our body and in our mind and that we must know how to leave behind by disregarding the negative and looking for goals that bring us positive things That help us to be less stagnant in pain and live with more joy and with more desire to fight for ourselves.

Thank you for reading me, I send kisses and hugs asking you to share to help more people.

María Díaz.